Talk To Your Kids About Sex – NOW
In the Bible’s “parenting manual” (Proverbs 2 through 7), the father speaks to his children frequently about sexuality. (Proverbs 2:16-19, all of chapter 5, 6:23-35, and all of chapter 7).
Why’s the Bible so obsessed with sex? you ask. Wrong question. God, because he loves us, speaks to us the most about those matters which have the greatest power to bless us, or hurt us.
When my daughter Hannah was a teen, what do you think I talked to her most about – how to handle a car or how to handle the TV remote? Was it because I was obsessed with cars? No. You know why.
Because an automobile has great power to bring a lot of joy and freedom to us. But it also has as great a power to bring life-long heart-ache. God talks to us the same way. The Bible is filled with teaching about the things that have the greatest power to bring joy and freedom if used properly, or can ruin us if used wrongly. And our sexuality is Exhibit A of such a powerful thing.
We mustn’t think that the need for sexual discipline is for any particular segment of the population. Don’t think it’s only for the young. Or only for the creepy.
Years after George Reardon died, a 2007 renovation in this pediatrician’s former home uncovered tens of thousands of pornographic videos and slides of children he had abused. It was only death that stopped him from committing his atrocities against children.
We mustn’t think that the need for sexual discipline is for any particular segment of the population. Don’t think it’s only for the young. Or only for the creepy.
Don’t think this subject is only for those who are single. If you struggle with porn before you’re married, guess what? You’ll struggle with it after you’re married. Marriage will help, but it will not heal, your purity issues. In marriage, there’s another human being who thinks and feels differently than you. If you’re not accustomed to saying no to your desires, you’re going to struggle when you don’t get your way in marriage.
You’ll need to grow up and acquire the discipline to say, No.
Speaking of porn, maybe a generation ago you didn’t need to teach all that often about controlling your sexual desires, but today, with the land flooded with erotic images everywhere you look, to not provide this instruction to your children would be sinful.
And forget about thinking that a generation ago everything was just fine. In every church I have served, I have learned that incidents of sexual childhood abuse had occurred years earlier, in the church.
We can’t talk about this enough. Thank goodness the father in Proverbs loves his child enough to talk often about his sexuality, and how to harness its desires.
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